Is Everything Connected? And How Can You Tell?

Ridiculous as it sounds, a few weeks ago I found myself stressing because I didn’t have time to make the bed in the morning. And, perish the thought, it was almost ten!

Granted, we live in the forest and our closest neighbor hundreds of yards away would never think of “dropping by.” In fact, in ten years of living here, there have been maybe fifteen people who have crossed our threshold, and they were all planned for.  

Except for one time three years ago, February.

It was a busy morning. I had just finished taping my podcast and my newly adopted dog was frantic to go out. Most of the snow had already melted, but I still carefully watched every step as I walked with her to do her business. Then, kerplunk, I slipped on some black ice (who knew what that was?) and down I fell, breaking my hip.

On the ambulance ride, I texted my neighbor to see if she could take care of my disabled husband until I got home. At that point I thought I would be back in a few hours (denial is a good thing!). After she agreed to help, I remembered I had not made my bed. Oh, the terror of someone seeing my house a mess!

From then on, the bed is religiously made the minute we get up. Especially if there’s snow on the ground. Ahem…

Telling this story is embarrassing, but the amount of growth from that experience still unfolds. Especially about the interconnection of everything and how it helped me evolve to a place of ‘so what.’

It All Connects

When I began to understand life from a spiritual perspective, I started experiencing the interconnectedness of everything. At first it was superficial. I would think about someone, the phone would ring, and it would be them. (Note to those under the age of 60: This strange occurrence would happen back when people actually called rather than texted!) 

Then, it got deeper for me.

I would need something, no matter what it was, and it would show up. I would meet someone who would have the answer I had been searching for. I would feel complete with a friend or a love relationship and they would vanish without a messy break up. I would feel “pulled” into a shop I would never have gone into only to find the perfect gift. If I was talking to a student, precise words would come to me that were exactly what they (and I) needed to hear.

Inevitably, things like that would happen in unexpected, often bizarre ways, always shocking no matter how often they occurred. The Zen notion that the flapping of a butterfly’s wings is felt around the world became very real to me.

As my spiritual journey became my every breath, I implicitly trusted the interconnection of everything.

I learned that the web of energy was always supporting me even when it appeared not to be. Especially when it appeared to be hindering me or stopping me. Eventually, the puzzle pieces would come together, and I would discover why. Tearfully, I would thank its wisdom for preventing something, taking me in a direction I was supposed to go, or allowing me to clean something up I had been in denial about. There was lots of that.

Then “So What” Happened

Something else occurred during that time. I call it being in the “So What” place.

I know. It sounds dismissive, like who cares, or whatever, or what’s the big deal or the current one – meh.

Actually, So What is a very evolved level to attain. It means that, rather than living from this is so awful; how could this happen; what a jerk; or my life is ruined, you absolutely know that, yes, everything is connected and unfolding. And you also know that, on a spiritual level, you’ve chosen this life to learn and complete things, so it’s Perfect.  

Trust me. It’s not an easy place to attain. Plus, it’s all too easy to use So What as a spiritual bypass way to suppress your emotions, or to be in a Joe Spiritual act. Nope, don’t do that. Trust me again: Faking it doesn’t work.

Rather, allow yourself to get to So What by feeling all you are feeling — the upset, the sadness, the fear, the disappointment, the hopelessness. Look deeper and see what that triggering is really about, the specific button that was pushed and what it symbolizes to you. 

Like, not making my bed means I’m lazy and don’t care and I’m terrified I won’t be approved of. Things like that that come to you are important to recognize. 

Then, the Higher Consciousness truth unfolds naturally. It also opens the door for amazing “coincidences” to appear and make sense. 

It takes as long as it takes, so patience is a virtue.

Can So What Apply to the Current Condition of the World?

Okay, I bet your wheels are turning trying to find examples where So What could never apply.

Like what’s going on politically that’s negatively affecting millions. Like brutal, ridiculous wars. Like destruction of the environment. Like job losses. Endless list.

Should we just sit back and say, well, they/we chose this, and they/we just need to get their/our lessons. Should we just roll our eyes and say So What, get over it?

No on either. That would be a close relative of narcissistically saying whatever. Like I said a few paragraphs above, it’s tough to get there even with decades of inner work, but even harder when someone shoves it in your face.

Better to shift that comma and turn it into So, what? What should we do now? What can I do now? What can all of us do? By coming from a compassionate place, AKA truly caring, your assistance can take someone (as well as yourself) from complete devastation to the positive form of So What. 

It might be challenging to help others and the world get to that place right now since it needs to happen organically and on a large scale level. But trust that evolving to So What means knowing that, in the Big Picture, nothing really matters except living from an awakened place of Love.

And here is my final trust me: That is what’s happening. Perfectly. And in Perfect timing.

Well, gotta go make my bed now!

TAKE ACTION: Want to get to that place in your life authentically? Reach out to Royce to help you awaken your So What and experience how everything really does connect!