Unbridled Blessings: Liberating Ourselves From Hidden Curses

What if, without realizing it, we are cursing ourselves throughout the day?

Not in obvious or dramatic ways… but in subtle thoughts, beliefs, and reactions that quietly shape how we experience our lives.

Self-Cursing takes on many different forms: 

• If-then double-bind thinking: “If I get ______ … then I’ll finally feel happy, safe, or enough.
• Resentment: “I can’t move on until they acknowledge what they did.”
• Fear-based thinking: “What if they don’t approve of me?”
• Self-doubt: “It will never be good enough…”

Shifting from Cursing to Blessing

The shift from cursing ourselves to blessing and bringing gratitude to ourselves, our lives, and others may seem like a simple change of mindset. Yet, liberating ourselves from our survival attachments to cursing and opening to the act of blessing is actually one of the hardest things for our ego self to do. 

Our ego selves are rooted firmly in our survival and tribal level of consciousness, which finds the act of Blessing incredibly threatening. While we tend to think of the energy of cursing as the desire to do extreme harm to another, there are much more subtle versions of cursing that we all engage with every day and don’t even know it. When we are running from our subconscious trauma and survival responses, we are responding to our bodies, our lives, and the world from a place of fear, scarcity, and shadow comparisons that truly believe if we are to be blessed, someone or something has to pay for that blessing. Or in other words, when I bless myself, I curse another, and if someone is blessed, then I am being cursed. It is the ultimate double-bind that locks us into a karmic feed-back loop of pain, suffering, blessing, and back to pain and suffering once more for the cycle to continue. 

The journey of healing and awakening seeks to help us liberate ourselves and each other from this self-harming karmic wheel. 

Take a moment and feel into your current life and survival thought patterns. 

Where do you feel subtle self-curses up and running?

How are they keeping you stuck in a karmic feedback loop of cursing?

To begin shifting out of these subtle patterns, I’d like to share a reflection from my oracle deck, The Sacred Witness Oracle, card number 55: “Blessing”. 

This card represents one of the core healing Medicines of the Soul Being, called forward in an act of Sacred Witnessing: the ability to see, give, and receive blessings.

Take a moment and feel into Sunflower as a teacher and guide in the art of Blessing. 

Sunflowers remind us that we can follow and remain devoted to the light that is within. As the sun rotates through the sky, the sunflower continually looks in that direction. It reminds us that we are not bound in one way of being, thinking, perceiving, or doing. Sunflower shares with us the soul-level truth that we have within us the ability to turn in a new direction, staying loyal to what really matters most to us when we open to the act of Blessing.

Going Deeper into Awakening the Medicine of Blessing 

With the support of Sunflower, I invite you to continue to liberate yourself from the hidden ways you might be cursing yourself by continuing with the exercises I share in the full excerpt of Card #55’s practices in Sacred Witness Oracle Guidebook:

Core Themes and Remembrance

The Medicine of Blessing begins to unfold naturally when we open to our Soul-led guidance and align with the Sacred Witness. We often think of the act of blessing something as a way to ensure good fortune or a positive outcome. If we don’t feel those things are happening, we typically feel the opposite, that we are being cursed or preventing ourselves from having good fortune. If we stay locked in this version of blessing, we are condemning ourselves to constantly having to find reasons as to why we are either worthy of a blessing or deserving of a curse. This leaves us locked in, only accessing the logical and overly limiting resources of our mind and its protective programs to figure this out.

OR we can open to and connect with the Soul-Level version of blessing. The Medicine of Blessing ourselves, something, or another Being means we are willing to offer the unconditional love of the healing power of the Sacred Witness to flow from us, through us, and to another without any attachment to what will result from that blessing. Meaning, we are not.

basing our blessing on what we think should happen or what we want to happen. We go hands-off and simply offer love for the highest good and benefit for all to take place, even if we don’t understand or agree with what appears to be happening, with our blessing from a personal point of view.

When this card comes forward, it asks you to remember that blessings are present and trying to support you. Pause and reflect on the different ways this medicine is present with you right now. Additionally, explore which level of blessing you are perceiving from. Look for subtle ways that your system is locked in the protective feedback loop of either blessing or cursing. Explore the different thoughts or beliefs that are withholding the Medicine of Blessing in your life right now.

This card also invites you to engage in medicine and the act of blessing! Once you have an awareness of the hidden and not so hidden ways that Parts of you are controlling or withholding the Medicine of Blessing, and therefore engaging in the act of cursing, this card invites you to shift gears and invite the Sacred Witness to help you open to and connect with the Medicine of Blessing, without an agenda, want, or expectation attached to it.

Healing Invitations and Inquiries

The act of blessing brings forward all the Medicines of the Soul and invites them to work together in their own wisdom to support wholeness, love, and calling forward the highest good and benefit for all. Additionally, it releases any personal expectations or ideas of what or how a blessing is supposed to look or work. This is why this medicine is often something that our ego closely tries to control and direct.

Reflect on:

• If you allow the Medicine of Blessing to flow through you, what parts of you try to attach conditions on what this medicine should or should not do?
• What aspects of you have attachments to what it means if your “blessing” either produces a positive or expected result, or the opposite?
• What changes in beliefs, honoring, and connection would you be asked to make if you allowed the Sacred Witness in you to flow with the Medicine of Blessing available to everyone regardless of their worth or outcome?

Take a few grounding breaths and let the Sacred Witness connect and begin to dialogue with you. Continue to follow the different insights and sensations from your Soul Being to see where they lead, opening you to deeper levels and layers of the conversation.

• What do you feel, sense, see, hear, or know about what is coming forward with these reflections?
• What parts of you is the Sacred Witness asking for you to lean into and explore more?
• This card will give you insights into the aspects of you that your Soul Being is yearning for you to engage with through the Medicine of Blessing. Additionally, it will help you illuminate hidden beliefs and restraints held within your protective programs that are locked in no-win battles of having to earn your worth to receive blessings and good fortune. Invite the Sacred Witness to help you meet those protective parts lost in those learned behaviors so that you can release any shadow ways they are withholding you from engaging in the Medicine of Blessing from the Soul’s point of view. From this clarity, you may discover aligned action steps you can bring into your life today.

TAKE ACTION: If this practice resonates, you can access a free card reading from my deck,  The Sacred Witness Oracle, here, along with an excerpt and guided meditation from its companion book, Trauma Informed Enlightenment.  

Sacred Witness Guidebook and Deck, published in 2026 by Unbridled Change. Excerpt of Card #55 description shared with Awakened Magazine with permission from Unbridled Change and Michelle Holling-Brooks, UnbridledChange.org